Who you find appealing may say a lot about you or something you may be lacking in your personal life at the moment. Yes, I'm saying I think you should psychologically delve into this kind of stuff.
I'm thinking about it, because it seems like I'm always in a conversation with a fellow lady geek about who she finds appealing in a film and why, and usually her obsession of the moment seems a strange mystery to her that can't be solved. (One recent such conversation? A friend with a serious fixation on Sirius Black. You know who you are...)
Analyzing these crushes can help you figure out what you may want in a partner someday or what you may need more of in your life right now. If you find yourself interested in any of these geek icons on any level, permanently or during a phase, you probably like intelligent men, funny men, sensitive men or men who find themselves passionate about a cause.
Then again, it may indicate that you prefer a rebel, an outsider, or a man who doesn't worry about keeping up with contemporary culture or the popular opinion. Maybe you're just bored and longing for adventure.
Whatever it is, feel proud. Of all the men in all the gin joints in all the world, you will most likely find yourself highly compatible with a geek...and that's nothing to be ashamed of...read on and discover what your geek crush might say about you.
(By the way, not only does my husband know that I wrote this article, he proofread it...)
Bruce is one of the guys on this list that earns his spot via his real life identity. He's a cult icon on the geek scene, well known for playing the masculine caricature Ash in the Evil Dead movies.
But it's his kindness to fans, his excellent comedic timing, and his clever books that win our hearts time and time again. If his memoirs are accurate, he's actually the precise opposite of Ash, He's a serial monogamist with all the self-conscious hang-ups of your average Joe. Which creates some subliminal appeal at a subconscious level, making him both the ultimate figure of red-blooded masculinity while also being a sensitive tongue-in-cheek parody of the very idea.
Bruce is the best of both worlds. A man who could rescue us from a horde of deadites, but who could also have an all-night conversation about comics and movies.
He was smart, funny and even though nobody else on the show seemed to notice, as happens so often in film and television, he was criminally handsome.
The true appeal, however, always comes in characters that are outcasts. The self-sabotaging loner resonates in every language and every country. In an early little twist on gender roles, his appeal may have had everything to do with us wanting to rescue him.
What you did care about if you watched this as a little girl, like I did, was the idea of the king of some far off land relieving you of babysitting duties and taking you dancing to a dreamy masquerade. Much like Holmes, he's got some negative qualities. But what he represents is passion and obsession. Real love, after all, (as my husband says) is just permanent obsession. But it's much healthier than Jareth's was for Sarah. Ultimately though, the idea of Jareth is what makes women sigh. An eccentric and confident man who will pull out all the stops, and stop at nothing, to get your attention. But he's also a feminist at heart, unwilling (or unable, it's still unclear) to force Sarah into loving him. Though he certainly does try...actually, the more I think about it, the more as a feminist I should probably hate Jareth and his manipulative ways...but darn if there isn't something viscerally attractive about his endless pursuit of his age-inappropriate lady love, a feisty and strong young woman (with eyebrows for days). *sigh* If you're crushing on Jareth, you may be lacking romance and those giddy feelings of first-love and passion. Or maybe you just like a guy who wears eyeliner. Again, like with Spock, either way...
Mulder, like a lot of the men on this list, may have been appealing for the simple fact that he was attracted to a strong woman. Same thing with Xander and Holmes and Jareth and Indiana Jones...a man who likes a strong woman is far more appealing than your average reality show hunk who blabbers on about strippers and beer.
If men are always picking up magazines with lists of "hot" women because they're making that "come hither" face in those glossy photos, then maybe this list of probable geek crushes for women is just a different version of the same thing. If you're a strong woman, you want a man who will be interested in that strength, wherever it may lie. In your opinions, in your interests, or in your convictions and beliefs. Jake and I got into a long conversation in the car the other day about some of the great romances of geek culture, Han and Leia in specific. Think about that couple and many of the couples from this list, (Mulder and Scully, Indy and Marion) they almost all feature fighting and conflict. I find Han and Leia's relationship far more romantic than anything you would ever see on, "The Bachelor" or in a romance novel. Specifically because it wasn't easy.
Don't ever feel weird about having a crush on a fictional character or an actor. (I mean, do feel weird if you're actually being weird. Stalking...not cool.) But if you figure out why you like what you like, you're one step closer to finding love (or whatever you're lacking) in reality. As geeks, our interests and obsessions can actually become ways to decode our psychological issues.
Another finalist who didn't quite make the cut? Chandler Bing from "Friends". Who was your geek crush and why?